Hey everyone! I know I have not posted on here in quite a long time. Life this year has been interesting to say the least. I would say that 2022 has had some of the most ups and downs that I have dealt with in a very long time. From experiencing a horrible car accident to dealing with a ton of personal issues, this year has been a whirlwind. Being 23 is NOT easy, but it has taught me to swim with the tide.
As I approach 24 next month, I have had to make a choice for my next step. The last 3 months have been extremely thought provoking in regards to what my next move is going to be. It is so easy to get down on yourself and get discouraged when the environment you are in is not watering you properly. So you may ask, what is my next step? As I continue to become more regular with my blog posts, we will be figuring that out together :)
In the mean time, let's go over some basic techniques that help one to roll with the punches.
1) Not taking things PERSONALLY:
This is something that I have honestly struggled with my whole life. Being a sensitive person is really hard in this harsh world. I am someone that would always take things to heart when someone would disappoint me, let me down, or be rude to me... the list goes on. Being in customer service has trained me to realize that it is NOT you. People treat others how they treat themselves; along with projecting their insecurities or bad days onto the nearest person. If someone does not feel worthy, insecure, or overall have negative self talk.... then the people around them will also be forced to experience this inner turmoil. At the end of the day, it is not you... it's them.
2) Don't ASSUME the worst, HOPE for the best!
In a society that profits off our own insecurities, it is almost expected to be let down by others. As someone who has been diagnosed with anxiety, thinking the worst can be a default. This is still something that I have to work on every single day. For me personally, it is easy to be positive for other people, but when it comes to my own life, I can tend to be negative and get down in the dumps. To counter this negative default, every day mental exercises help A LOT. When you start to notice yourself going down an anxious negative rabbit hole, give yourself a one minute timer to worry about whatever is bothering you. Once the timer goes off, pull out a notebook and write down how your current situation is working out for you. Additionally, write another column describing the best possible outcome of the situation you are in. The best advice someone recently told me is to stop going against it, and start to work with it.
These take PRACTICE and do not happen overnight. I struggle with these things daily and am still a work in progress, so do not be so hard on yourself :)
I wish you peace, love, light, hope and prosperity in this holiday season.
Love always,
Kare
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